It’s funny how if you stop and think about it, you never stop having opportunities to learn. I am well past my days as a student in the academic sense. And yet I continue to be a student of life.
In the last year alone I have learned important life skills such as how to change a flat tire, how to snake a drain, and how to reset my garbage disposal. These are all good things to know and can get you out of a jam from time to time. So I lump them into category of things I know and hope that I won’t have to use.
But maybe just as important are the things I’ve learned from our Tater Tot, and these I consider to be life lessons with daily applications. What’s the number one lesson I’ve learned from my child? It is that I can have a bad moment but still have a good day. Many of you already know this lesson but for me this is like trying to master a new language.
All my life, if something didn’t go exactly according to plan it threw me off. A disagreement left me disagreeable for the whole day. A perceived slight had me fuming and indignant. I got good at being prickly and stabby. I might say “let’s agree to disagree” but in my head I would be listing the ways that you were wrong and I was right.
And then I began to see how Libby could go from a full on meltdown one minute (or two, or ten) back to happy the next. Thanks to her developing understanding about wanting everything she sees, she gets upset in the morning when she sees us walking around getting dressed and ready for the day while she is left in her crib. There are tears. There are sobs. Sometimes, there is wailing. And it goes on for what seems like forever (especially at 6:30 in the morning). But eventually she pulls herself together, sits down in the crib, and plays with a toy. And you would never know that only minutes before this happy, content, singing baby was a shrieking, whirling dervish.
So what does my 10 month old know that I don’t? Maybe that it is ok to be upset or angry but once you’ve said as much it’s time to let go and move on. She doesn’t hold a grudge against us because we put her in the crib, won’t let her crawl into the dishwasher, or keep her hands out of the cat food dish. Granted, I won’t give you an up-arms hug or wet kiss the way Libby does after she’s calmed down but I might not be shooting mental daggers your way either. Let’s call that progress, shall we?
Adapted from Bon Appetit
BAH Note: This is more a process than a recipe. But the two step approach produces perfectly browned toast on the outside with melty cheese goodness on the inside. No flipping required. Of all the life lessons of the past year, this one comes in just below not letting a bad moment lead to a bad day. Can you blame me?
Heat your oven to 400 degrees and line a sheet pan with foil.
Melt 2 tablespoons butter in a large skillet over medium heat. Add two slices of bread to the pan and cook until the bottom of the bread is crisp and browned. Transfer the bread to the sheet pan, toasted side down. Top one slice of bread with the cheese and place the second slice of bread, toasted side up, on top of the cheese. Bake for approximately 5 minutes or until the cheese is melted.
Carefully remove from the oven and enjoy.